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Netorare-Eng 1919
"This made me depresssed."
—A Crossing Man and Woman reader, summing it up perfectly.

Netorare (寝取られ, lit. "cuckold", also commonly abbreviated as NTR) is a notoriously controversial genre of Hentai (or in rarer cases, Ecchi), with a degree of infamy perhaps rivaled only by full-blown Guro. Even the horniest /d/viants[1] are resistant of embracing the genre, and if one finds an example uploaded at certain shady websites, one would only need to look at the comments section to see the Internet Backdraft that will inevitably ensue.

On the bad side of Good Adultery, Bad Adultery, and as its name suggests, Netorare is essentially a genre whose goal is to project discomfort on the audience's part (much like horror flicks are intended to provoke unintended bowel movements), where the discomfort comes in the form of sexual jealousy. Typically, a heroine will be introduced as having a significant other, which may be a husband, a boyfriend, or even a partner in a BST affair. The story will then show the aforementioned heroine being intimate with another man (another girl just doesn't pack the same punch), thus provoking jealousy in the audience by proxy. The nature of the affair varies, and the parties involved may be willing or unwilling: sometimes the girl is simply cheating, sometimes it's in the form of a Scarpia Ultimatum, some other times, it's rape, or the man may simply be pimping his sweetheart out to earn their bread. Netorare's also on the good side of Good Adultery, Bad Adultery, as explained in more detail in both this article and on this blog

Of course, the parties involved may be of either gender. Most Writers Are Male, so commonly it's the woman who engages in the proceedings. Also, it doesn't have nearly the same effect if the genders are switched; in fact, most of the guys love it.

As one might effortlessly predict, many people seriously detest this genre/trope. It might have to do with the oft-idealised nature of relationships in the anime/manga culture, along with the fanbase's obsession with purity -- a phenomenon apparent by the popularity of tropes like Sacred First Kiss, Lolicon, Yamato Nadeshiko, or Moe. That is to say, Otakudom seems to have a strong connection with a specific, sugary perception of romantic relationships, built around pure, sincere, genuine commitment. Hence Netorare, being at the opposite side of the Sliding Scale of Idealism Versus Cynicism, tends to rub people the wrong way. In spite of all the hate, some people are genuinely attracted to this kind of stories, for various reasons. Inversely, most fans of the genre are also obsessed with purity, which is what makes it all the more enticing when that purity is broken.

See also Adult Fear, Be a Whore to Get Your Man, Defiled Forever, Ethical Slut, I Have You Now, My Pretty, Mrs. Robinson, My Girl Is a Slut Please, I Will Do Anything!, Sacred First Kiss, Scarpia Ultimatum, and Your Cheating Heart. Very often features an Idiot Plot, and is perhaps one of the few non-comedic techniques which may execute it to good effect. The reverse of netorare is netori, cuckolding someone else's love.

Further reading:

Examples of Netorare Genre include:

Anime and Manga

Fan Fic

  • In PITCH, Light has sex with L and, after tying him up and gagging him, forces Aiber to watch. It's different in that L and Light are already together, and Light is trying to make Aiber realize that L is not available.
  • A possible interpretation for Prussia torturing and raping Hungary in front of her ex-husband Austria in the infamous All He Ever Wanted.
    • There's also a kinkmeme fill in which Denmark gets so jealous of Norway's close relationship with his younger brother Iceland... that he fucks Norway in front of Iceland solely to "show Iceland who Norway belongs to".
  • Defied in Reconciliation, a Katawa Shoujo fanfic in which Lilly and Hisao get together after Hanako's bad ending and Hanako, despite having isolated herself from the two out of guilt, harbors feelings for Hisao. Word of God states early on that the fic is not intended to be NTR, and in the third chapter, Lilly calls Hanako to tell her about Hisao's death.



  • In Paul Di Filippo's short story And the Dish Ran Away With the Spoon, the heroine is stolen by an intelligent assembly of household objects, including a vacuum cleaner, a food processor, and a blanket. That hurts.


  • Sublime, "Doin' Time/Summertime".
  • The Killers, "Mr. Brightside".
  • Lustra, "Scotty Doesn't Know".
  • Maroon 5, "She Will Be Loved"
  • Summercamp, "Nowhere Near", It should be noted that this may be a subversion, as the protagonist Does not wallow in self hatred and in a broken state, and chooses to leave the girl. Of course, Your Mileage May Vary.
  • The Irish ballad Seven Drunken Nights is sung from the perspective of a man whose wife is cheating on him.
  • Jairo, "Para verte feliz" ("To see you happy"). It's sung from the POV of a guy who knows his beautiful girlfriend's old flame is coming to town and chooses to rather have them almost tongue-kissing in front of him rather than confronting and then losing her, since he's that much of a Love Martyr towards her.
  • "Younger Men" by K.T. Oslin, is sung from the POV of a married cougar who cuckolds her same-age or older husband with young men with his encouragement.

Tabletop Games

Mess with their heads. Get it so the victims love their keepers, will do anything for them (even better if they can work one of the couple against the other--so sweet, that betrayal).
Night Horrors: Immortal Sinners, pg. 74

Web Original

Video Games


  • Various pornographic films are based on this very theme.


  1. Not necessasrily those ones
  2. Diablerie causes vampires to sometimes pickup traits of the soul they ate. It's implied that's why the couple do what they do, despite their actions mirroring their own tragic histories.
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