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Obviously if you're watching a scene with a woman tied to a bed while a man forces sex on her, the final act of that movie will involve said man getting shot in the face by Bruce Willis. If, on the other hand, it's a man being tied down and forced into sex by a pretty lady, well, you're watching a wacky Romantic Comedy.—C. Coville, 6 Romantic Movie Gestures That Can Get You Prison Time, Cracked.com
Rape Is a Special Kind of Evil, beyond kicking the dog or any of the other acts of villainy in media. But there seems to be one exception: when the victim is a man and the attacker is a woman. Men are stereotyped as constantly wanting sex and of being stronger in general than women. Therefore, the idea that the man could have either not consented to sex with a woman or been incapable of fighting off a female aggressor if he did refuse sex is simply not taken seriously. Another commonly-held notion that the idea of female-on-male rape challenges is the false idea that since men have erections, they enjoy the sex, and hence is not rape or not as traumatic as any other kind of rape.
For a trope that suffers a similar attitude, see Hot for Student. Some forms of Gender Rarity Value could be considered a sub-trope. Often involves the Bed Trick, Love Potion or other fantastical means of sex.
Compare The Unfair Sex, Double Standard Rape (Sci Fi), Double Standard Rape (Female on Female), Double Standard Rape (Male on Male), Black Comedy Rape, Double Standard Rape (Divine on Mortal), and All Women Are Lustful.
Sadly, people thinking this way is Truth in Television. For instance, some countries don't penalize sexual acts done by females as "rape", and this even extends to Sexual Harassment, too. Since real examples can get complicated, No Real Life Examples, Please
This trope is not just females raping males, but females raping males and that being somehow more okay in-universe than males raping females, males raping males, and so forth.
- This Chocolate flavored Axe (Lynx in the UK) ad is on the Nightmare Fuel page for a reason. It's Played for Laughs, sure, and the chocolate guy seems to like it, but can you imagine an ad showing a woman getting literal bites taken out of her, possibly against her will, by strangers on the street ever being passed for broadcast? Thought not.
- Muscle Milk is supposed to make one more attractive. Ads show men visibly upset talking about how they are being sexually harassed by women, The announcer then tells them that attractive men must submit to unwanted sexual advances.
Anime and Manga
This trope is the cornerstone of many Hentai manga (although not all of the examples below are Hentai). While male rape of females is far more ubiquitous in hentai, it tends to be treated as more heinous than female rape of males including that of young boys, for that matter. In comparison to other examples of this trope, though, hentai examples do seem more likely to call attention to potential consequences of female-on-male rape. 
- In Kan, a boy caught sneaking into the girls' locker room on a dare is raped by the entire softball team. Repeatedly. His hands were tied behind his back and everything. Later, they kidnapped him, sneaking him into softball camp inside a trunk. All of the girls have sex with him mainly in hopes of becoming pregnant so he'll have to be with them alone. Eventually, the softball coach and his own sister get in on the act. By the end, he gets expelled after they get caught ravishing him at school. Yes, the fact that he really, really doesn't want, like, any of this to be happening is played completely for comedy.
- Taken Up to Eleven with Kanokon's huge-breasted and foxy Chizuru Minamoto, who lusts toward a cute young boy named Kouta. She has no hesitation to strip herself naked in public and rape him at any possible moment. As if this is not enough, there's a female wolf Nozumu, who's as bad as the former. Together, they form a downright weird Love Triangle. In the manga it eventually makes the kid become submissive and a permanent Chivalrous Pervert.
- In the final arc of Ranma One Half, Shampoo takes advantage of the fact that Akane is helpless and in her control to force Ranma to sleep with her (and she was planning to kill him afterwards.) Surprisingly, since the series had played the reverse for laughs (involving female Ranma's mishaps) this was played seriously... until the people in the next room started eavesdropping and completely misunderstood what was going on.
- This is the prevailing theme in the work of mangaka Nitta Jun (who is a woman herself), and in literally every case we're meant to be on the woman's side.
- In Girls Saurus, Shingo, who is deeply afraid of women after various bad encounters with them, is eventually cornered by a porn movie director who had been looking at his sister for a part. In order to save his sister, Shingo would have to star in a movie where he gets raped by many women. While the idea is treated with horror and revulsion by him at first, it's mostly Played for Laughs, and when he reluctantly accepts, his friends, all of them girls, all volunteer to do the scene with him.
- Moonlight Lady features this: when Suzuna, Sayaka, and Chikako are raped, it's played for drama. When the show's resident cute little boy, Io, is raped by Tomomi, it's much more light-hearted. The situation is compounded by Io's dubious sexuality.
- Kurogane Pukapuka Tai's seemingly sole heterosexual woman, gunnery officer Obama Mifuyu, seems to have this attitude to "seduction", and a taste verging on Shotacon besides.
- In Onihime VS, the closest thing to an actual love interest the main character has is the bully who sexually assaults him on a daily basis, culminating in attempting straight-up rape after cornering him in the athletic supply closet. We're supposed to be rooting for her to end up with him, though to be fair, the other girls competing to win his heart are literally competing for his heart, the blood pumping organ in his chest, so that they can eat it.
- This trope occurs in the Manga Hen where the female main character, Chizuru rapes a guy when he's unconscious. Since she's the main character, the tone of the story indicates that we're still supposed to root for her. Chizuru has attempted rapes against her in the plot, although those rapists aren't portrayed sympathetically at all.
- Goshuushou-sama Ninomiya-kun's main character, Shungo Ninomiya, is more or less completely uninterested in girls, and unwilling to fight them off, so the girls in his class love to tease him, including kidnapping and tying him down so he can't get away. While not rape, it's pretty darned close -- especially if you consider the gender swapped alternate -- and also sets up the later subversion, that is...
- Crosses the line when Reika, the girl whom the main character is oblivious about, snaps, causing her alternate, more assertive and less moral personality to take command, who promptly lures Shungo to a secluded spot, wherein she ties him down and attempts to rape him for real.
- Done in the anime Speed Grapher, where the hero Saiga is run over by Inspector Ginza. This leaves Saiga unconscious, allowing Ginza to take him to her apartment and invoke this trope.
- The original manga of Ah! My Goddess actually introduces Urd, who has this sentiment. Upon her arrival, she is more than a little baffled at Keiichi and Belldandy's lack of... physical drive. Her attempts to "remedy" this culminate in trying to make Keiichi have sex with her through a combination of straightforward seduction, lies, and psychically pressuring his mind to give in.
- Hinted at in Angel Sanctuary as at least part of the reason Raphael's reputation was so utterly destroyed after his then-subordinate Belial raped him while in his own office. Public opinion was that he was nothing more than a lech that had wanted or even been a willing participant. Rather than denying it, he instead refashions himself into the very Kavorka Man people perceived him as.
- Tenchi Forever. Tenchi is brainwashed by Haruna, a woman from Yosho's past, and made to live with her as her lover. The fact that this is rape is ignored by the story -- so that she can later tell Ayeka and Ryoko that they're Not So Different from her.
- There is a manga and OVA called Aki Sora where the main character gets raped at the beginning by his older sister while he is in the shower, soon after that they become the official couple and sleep together regularly. After that he is raped by his Innocent Fanservice Girl neighbor who later takes him to A Party - Also Known as an Orgy where he is raped by several women. Finally his Psycho Lesbian Half-Identical Twins sister who has a serious case of penis envy, rapes him while threatening to cut off his with scissors and fantasying she is using it to have sex with her friend. The situation with all three of the above mentioned girls is treated as Victim Falls For Rapist and he eventually has consensual sexual relationships with all three of them.
- In Gakuen Ouji, Azusa's first sight of the horrors of his school is when he hears someone scream "Somebody please help me!!", only to run and find a boy practically naked surrounded by girls. They run off, he looks down to see the boy in tears, his reaction? "What did you do to get harassed by those girls?". As soon as he looks up he sees all the girls staring at him and he gets the same treatment.
- Princess Lucia repeatedly tries to rape Kouta due to the fact that if she has a child with him he will be able to destroy the world. Lucia is a devil.
- Lampshaded in Mahou Sensei Negima when Evangeline tells Chachamaru "You can just force yourself on him. Don't be so dull. Just jump him" after she finds Chachamaru "recharging her mana" while saying Negi's name.
- In the first episode of Maburaho, Kuriko attempts to get into Kazuki's pants for his genes- genes that can give birth to a powerful magician. Kazuki tries to fight her off and shouts that he would scream for help if she doesn't stop. Kuriko just responds, "Isn't that what girls usually say?"
- Mimic -Hoshokusha- plays this for horror; almost all the men who get raped are definitely not enjoying the act, and not just because the rapists are creatures masquerading as girls who will eat them once they can no longer maintain an erection.
- Totally demolished in Kasei Yakyoku, where the audience is NOT supposed to sympathize with Nami's Lady Robinson mother when she tries to rape a younger and near cathatonic Taka. Not only that, but her Yakuza husband finds out and kills her right there.
- Dungeon ni Deai o Motomeru no wa Machigatteiru Darō ka: Hermes performed by Ishtar in episode six of the second season.
- Dick Grayson, the first Robin, Nightwing and now Batman seems especially prone to this:
- In an issue of Teen Titans, Mirage shape shifts into the form of Starfire and sleeps with Nightwing, who doesn't realize she isn't his girlfriend until after the fact. This is used as a device to put stress on his relationship with Starfire, but the team largely under-reacts to Mirage's actions, and even mock him after they learn about it.
- Nightwing issues 93-100 are often accused of this due to the fact that Tarantula and Nightwing appear to run away together after Tarantula rapes Nightwing. These issues were actually meant to depict Nightwing as being too deeply traumatized to assert himself as Tarantula bullies him from motel room to motel room, not minding that her "querido" is nearly catatonic.
- This also happened quite a few times in Starman.
- Jack Knight was raped off panel by Nash a.k.a. The Mist. This results in a son, whom Jack learns about through a letter which reveals not only the rape but her plans to raise the son as a supervillain. Despite this, Jack seems less upset about being raped than he is about the idea of not knowing where is son is.
- In a rather infamous example, Green Arrow was raped by the assassin Shado while badly injured and under medication. Other writers treated this as an affair, which resulted in Arrow--who was steadfastly loyal to Black Canary at the time of the incident--gaining a reputation as sleeping around constantly behind the back of the long-suffering Canary. And Shado? Nobody so much as bats an eyelash at her actions.
- One little tidbit that doesn't get discussed much is that Shado had a son as a result of the rape and she purposely sought to keep Green Arrow ignorant that her son was his. Black Canary eventually put two and two together, confronted Shado over what happened... and then never got around to telling Green Arrow that he had a son or that he had been raped.
- When she was discussing marrying him with Oracle, Oracle brought up Shado, and she angrily rejects the notion that he was to blame.
- Another DC example: Bruce Wayne, upon finding out from Talia al Ghul that they have a son, notes to her that she drugged him during a ceremony wherein Ra's himself united Batman with Talia, during a short period where Bats and the Demon's Head had to work together. Bruce was fairly lucid when he slept with her (in Batman: Son of the Demon) and doesn't use the word "rape" or even "assault", but it's clear he didn't find it amusing after the fact but still takes the son (Damian Wayne) who is now the fifth Robin. Of course, this example is derived from the work of one writer (Mike W. Barr) being added upon by another (Grant Morrison), with a 19 year gap.
- DC also had a case of reverse Dude, She's Like, in a Coma between two of the founding members of the Legion of Super-Heroes. Saturn Girl tried to use her telepathic powers to bring Cosmic Boy out of a coma. It appeared that she'd succeeded, but instead she was subconsciously animating and controlling his comatose body; during this period they began dating, and Cos woke up at their wedding. This admittedly was not treated as "okay" so much as it was forgiven because Saturn Girl did it subconsciously, not on purpose.
- Horatio from Nexus was also has also drugged and raped, which resulted in the birth of his twin daughters. He later moved in with the girls and their rapist mother.
- Played with in Fables when Snow White and Bigby are both enchanted and wake up in a tent in the woods, discovering later that they slept together. While it's uncertain if it's rape (as both of them were under a spell and couldn't remember the action), Bigby is rather offended that Snow blames him and points out that for all they know, she seduced him. Though really, Snow was more angry that Bigby knew they slept together because of his wolf senses but chose to lie about it, with her only finding out after she discovered she was pregnant.
- Foggy Nelson, the law partner and friend of Matt Murdock, AKA Daredevil, was drugged and raped by a client of theirs named Lydia Mckenzie, who was secretly working for Mysterio. She then committed suicide by jumping out the window and made it appear that Nelson had pushed her. As a result, Foggy's girlfriend, Liz Allen (the original love interest of Spider-Man and widow of Green Goblin Harry Osborn), leaves him for cheating on her. He was also fired from his job because of the negative publicity it might bring the firm by his new law partner who is also his, until recently, Missing Mom.
- In an issue of Thunderbolts, sex maniac Skein rapes SHIELD Super Agent Silicon, and it's played entirely for comedy.
- A really horrific Marvel example: In Avengers West Coast #56, Wanda,The Scarlet Witch had Agatha Harkness, US Agent, The Wasp, and Wonder Man under a spell that kept them imobilized. Wanda, who was suffering a mental breakdown at the time, ripped the shirt off of Wonder Man and forced herself on him while he screamed "No! NO!!!" Later, US Agent asked Wanda "How could you hurt him like that?" and Wasp asked "Simon(Wonder Man)...are you...? To which the clearly traumatised Wonder Man replied "Don't ask, Janet. Just don't ask!" Not only was the rape never mentioned again, but Wonder Man and Scarlet Witch briefly dated.
- Tarot: Witch of the Black Rose: Jon is raped and otherwise molested on a regular basis.... it's played for laughs. Imagine if Jon was Jane instead...
- Alpha Flight 41 introduced the Purple Girl (now known as Persuasion) the daughter of the Purple Man. The first intentional use of the 13 year old’s power is hypnotizing Northstar (who was then still in the closet) who she had a Precocious Crush on and forced him to love and serve her which included as she put it "playing Adam and Eve". After her hold on him was broken he actually used the R word to describe the experience to his team. However Vindicater seemed dismissive of this and she actually offered Purple Girl membership in the team at the end of the issue. This case especially sticks out because her father has done the same thing to women, yet he's considered (rightfully) a Complete Monster because of it.
- In The Savage Dragon, the main character wakes up one night to find a female character named Horridus having oral sex with him. Horridus was a young lizard woman who had severe social problems and had decided to become Dragon's girlfriend. The scene is played for laughs.
- Captain Britain has been raped by female villains at least three times. None of the encounters were treated as "okay", but they are brushed off as more an occupational hazard than a violation, and were never brought up much afterward:
- Once, in his own series, he's captured by an elderly female crime lord who called herself Vixen and is next seen suspended naked in a device clearly intended to facilitate her using him for sex (the only thing keeping the reader from seeing his exposed crotch is the seat situated in front of it facing him). It's dismissed it as a dishonorable way to treat a Worthy Opponent, but no mainstream comic would dare depict a female heroine in a similar state back in the heyday of the Comics Code Authority (they might dare today, but it would be treated as a major, possibly life-altering trauma, and the writers would be roundly castigated as crossing a line in a cheap attempt to be edgy).
- In his own series again, when his inter-dimensional counterpart Kaptain Briton switched places with Brian and he ended up in villainess Sat-Yr-9's chamber, Sat-Yr-9 gave him a sedative to knock him out, after which he awoke naked and in bed with her gone. The scene is juxtaposed with Kaptain Briton's extremely nightmarish Attempted Rape of his AU-sister, Betsy (Psylocke), who was forced to kill him thinking she was being assaulted by her own brother, played as deadly serious and traumatic as one would expect.
- The other time was an issue of Excalibur - the team is captured by Sat-Yr-9, who hands all of them over to another villain except for Cap, whom she keeps as a mind-controlled sex slave. She makes him walk around in a Chippendale's dancer-inspired version of what her henchmen wear, and he's seen passed out naked in her bed. It's treated as significantly less severe a fate than whatever was happening to the other members of the team, and the possibility that it could have any greater psychological effect on Brian than any other random defeat by a villain isn't even paid lip service.
- Once, Deadpool tried to convert the Daredevil villain Typhoid Mary to be good. At one point, she disguised herself as Siryn, whom he loved back then, and slept with him, only to reveal herself afterwards and mock his gullibility. Deadpool was distraught after the ordeal and Mary is presented as a villain, but the incident is rarely mentioned as rape, and whenever Mary and Deadpool's relationship is referred to, it's referred to as consensual.
- Catwoman #1 (of the 2011 DC Relaunch) featured an example of this, given that during Catwoman and Batman's encounter he seems very reluctant at first. In the words of Linkara, "Because it's not rape if he consents eventually, right?"
- You Got Haruhi Rolled from the Suzumiya Haruhi universe has a Running Gag where Kuyou constantly tries to get in Fujiwara's pants. It's Played for Laughs, but imagine what people's reaction would be were the genders reversed--especially because Kuyou is a Starfish Alien.
- "Conversation Is For Heterosexuals", a Kingdom Hearts AU fanfic, invokes this and crosses it over with Double Standard Rape (Male on Male). In it, a bored Larxene plays matchmaker with Axel, Roxas, Marluxia, Vexen, Demyx, and Zexion. She does this by drugging them, stripping them naked, forcing them into penetrative positions, and locking them in small boxes. When the pairs wake up, she explains that she'll only let them out if they have sex and reach climax, a proposition they all eventually play along with. Not only does she receive no ramifications from this, but the story boasts rave reviews from readers who consider Larxene the hero.
- In Naruto Veangance Revelaitons, this seems to be played straight at first, as the catgirls' raping Madara after being freed from his brainwashing is portrayed as righteous revenge, but then the author notes that women can't rape men, and has the catgirls beat him up with their tails.
- Invoked in one of Cori Falls's Rocketshipping fics. In few words, Cori assumes that men always want sex and never are too tired/not in mood for it/able to change their mind/etc., and it's fine for their female partners to believe a lack of male sexual desire is a personal offense to them.
- The Vorkosigan Saga fanfic Forward Momentum runs headlong into this in "The Two Ivans", though without actual rape. Ivan explicitly does not want to marry two woman who he has been seeing and sleeping with who have both proposed to him and are perfectly okay with polygamy. He does, however, want to secretly marry another woman and run away before the first two find out. He is forced to marry all three. And not in the PG Wodehouse hilarious misunderstanding fashion either; the first two find out, show up, and negotiate their positions in the marriage with the third, without any input from Ivan, right in front of him. He is literally given no choice in the matter, nor is the possibility of any refusal even mentioned. This is because they are backed by Imperial pressure. From both Barryar's and Cetaganda's Emperors. The two most powerful men in the known universe effectively force him to get married.
- Wedding Crashers, as noted in the page quote. She literally ties him up while he's asleep and when he wakes up tapes his mouth shut to stop his protests, and the next day he calls it a "midnight rape". Yet he falls in love with her and marries her by the end of the movie, and this is a comedy. They would never, never dare film this with the genders reversed.
- The trope has been the plot for far too many porn films to dwell upon.
- In the Mash film, there's an implied rape as a character is given a sleeping pill disguised as an assisted-suicide drug, and a female character has sex with him--albeit to prevent him from committing suicide for real. In any case, it's played for dark humor.
- It doesn't actually happen, but there are hints of it in Moulin Rouge. It's more like clothed rape, and is more the result of a mistaken identity than any intentional sexual assault, but the man's reactions are still Played for Laughs.
- Done painfully straight in the "comedy" Norbit, where Norbit is constantly physically, emotionally, and sexually assaulted by the over-sized "female" lead, due to him being trapped in a relationship with this woman merely because he is too weak willed to stand up for himself. If the genders were reversed, this wouldn't be the least bit funny.
- This trope is carried out in the Clint Eastwood film The Rookie as a punishment to the tied up relentless tough cop by his captor woman. His sole reaction was insisting "she did not sit on my face" after his partner ridiculed him about it.
- In Forty Days and Forty Nights the protagonist vows not to have sex or masturbate during Lent. During said period, he meets and falls in love with a girl. Just to be sure, he spends the last night of Lent chained to his bed, falls asleep and awakens being raped by his EX-girlfriend. His girlfriend walks in and quite naturally assumes he's being lying to her the whole time. To top it off he later has to apologize to his girlfriend for this, and the ex both wins a bet and gets off scot-free. The protagonist's best friend even says, "This doesn't seem like one of those 'truth shall set you free' situations", when, actually, it seems like precisely that type of situation. Woo, boy were people pissed.
- In Reefer Madness, either on stage or the Showtime adaptation, a male character tries to use marijuana to seduce an ingenue. Things go drastically, hilariously, sadomasochistically wrong for him. The audience doesn't really have much sympathy for him, even as he cries out, "Help, this crazy tomato is raping me!" Definitely a case of Laser-Guided Karma, but, presumably, would have been less acceptable had the genders been reversed.
- In the Jim Carrey film Yes Man, the protagonist promises to say yes to everything. He is propositioned by an old woman who lives in his building, and when he tries to say no, he is karmically punished. Think for a second about how this would be treated if the protagonist was a woman.
- This trope is played for laughs in Hamburger The Movie. A woman pulls a machine gun on the main character while wearing nothing but a pair of panties. She forces him on the bed and demands to have sex with him. He gets out of the situation by pretending to be a homosexual, making her leave. Oddly enough, neither character mentions this throughout the rest of the film.
- Disclosure with Michael Douglas and Demi Moore is a detailed examination of this trope. It's a film based on a Michael Crichton book about a man sexually harassed by his female boss, and the MAJOR uphill battle he has to perform to convince everyone that he wasn't the aggressor.
- Played for laughs in Dr. Alien. A teenage boy is implanted (without his knowledge, initially) with an alien organ meant to stimulate females with sonics, resulting in him getting assaulted by a girl he was taking to a movie, the girlfriend of a bully, and a locker room full of women (and their coach).
- In Get Him to The Greek Aaron Green, played by Jonah Hill, is at a party and goes into a room with a woman. After he protests vocally against sexual entanglements of sorts with the woman, she ignores it and does so anyway. It's especially bad in that afterwards, he staggers back to Aldous Snow, played by Russell Brand, clearly traumatised and terrified, stammers out "I think I've just been raped", and Aldous gives him a Jeffery and tells him he'll be fine in a minute. It's in character for the totally emotionally numb Aldous, but the movie itself seems to care about as much as he does.
- Swordfish has Gabriel force Hollywood Hacker Stan at gunpoint to comply with the parameters of a Secret Test of Character: as a female escort gives him the oral part of the exam, he has to hack into the DoD mainframe in 60 seconds or die. Stan is quite upset (about being fooled by The Dragon's empty gun) but he gets over it pretty quickly.
- Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen has a Decepticon disguised as a human female track down Sam in college, force him to the bed, and into a very compromising position. When Sam's girlfriend finds them, she is furious at him, and the situation is played for laughs.
- Almost Famous has a scene where a flock of 18-to-20-year-old girls have sex with a 15-year-old boy, shouting "deflower the kid!" Consider how that would be treated if the genders were reversed.
- Pee Wees Big Adventure - as an angry biker gang discuss what they're going to do with Pee-Wee before they kill him, a big Amazon biker babe grabs him by the lapel and growls "I say you let me have him first!" - the other bikers find this hilarious.
- A lesser sexual offense than rape, but same Double Standard: In An American Werewolf in London, another nurse remarks to the Love Interest that she'd "had a look" at the unconscious David's genitals. If a male nurse had admitted to peeking under female patients' gowns, he'd get canned on the spot, but in this case the voyeur is merely chided that it's improper behavior.
- Horrible Bosses doesn't so much play this straight as avert it while playing it for laughs anyways. Dentist Julia (Jennifer Aniston) drugs Dale her assistant and molests him while he's unconscious. She later shows him photos she took of this that look like them having sex and threatens to show them to his fiance if he does not have sex with her. Dale is very upset and angry by this and calls it rape and Julia is portrayed as a horrible person though it is still played for comedy more than rape usually is when the victims female.
- Played straight in the 1949 film Neptune's Daughter. Betty Garrett sings Baby It's Cold Outside to Red Skelton while fondling and groping him as he tries to get her out of his apartment. It's an over the top parody of an earlier scene with Ricardo Montalbán and Esther Williams, with the roles being reversed.
- Tabloid tells the true story of a beautiful woman who kidnapped a homely male missionary, tied him to a bed, and allegedly raped him for several days. The whole thing is mostly told from her perspective and played for laughs. It's hard to imagine that a movie about a homely man kidnapping and raping a beautiful young nun for several days would be quite as lighthearted.
- In Pleasantville, Jennifer goes on a date with the town jock, who she quickly manipulates into having sex with her. This is Played for Laughs, though at the time, the boy had no idea what sex was (or for that matter, STD's or even pregnancy), was visibly freaked out, and even mistook his erection for an "illness." Had the sexes been reversed, the boy would have been villified.
- Played straight in Super, wherein Ellen Page's ingénue, superhero-horny character overpowers Rainn Wilson's character and forcibly has sex with him. He fights her and angrily throws her off, but subsequently acts as if it never happened, and they continue to fight crime together.
- Towards the end of Sex And Death 101, the protagonist learns that the last name on the list of all the women he has and ever will sleep with is that of an infamous misandrist vigilante who drugs men into permanent comas and not wishing to be a victim attempts not to have sex for a while, and is trying to burn off the excess energy through bicycling. He ends up having an accident, and while he's lying injured, a busload of Catholic Schoolgirls find him and decide to lose their virginity to him. This is followed up by the bus driver also deciding to get a piece and her plus the schoolgirls equal all the names before the aforementioned vigilante. This is all played for laughs.
- In the film Spring 1941, a Jewish family, the Plancks, is hiding from the Nazis in the attic of a Polish farmer, Emilia. Emilia falls in love with Artur Planck (who can pass for a gentile and thus spends his days helping her with her farmwork), and pursues him, although he's married and obviously devoted to his wife and daughter. Artur begins sleeping with her, while Emilia starts restricting the number of times a day he can go up to see his family, eventually bringing the number down to once a week. She makes it plain that she will kick them out if he gives her reason to be jealous. Artur is not happy with any of this. His wife views it as cheating, which is justified given both the time period and the character's overall emotional state, but the film itself seems to treat the whole situation as a love triangle rather than repeated rape via blackmail.
- An aversion: The 1998 film Thursday has a scene in which Thomas Jane is held at gunpoint, tied to a chair, and raped by a female drug dealer. The scene treats the act as wrong, mostly due to the main character having a wife. Thomas Jane's character even call it rape. Despite this, it is still filmed in an erotic fashion.
- Crazily zigzagged with Adam Sandler's upcoming film That's My Boy; the film itself plays this trope straight as an arrow, but the critical backlash thus far has averted it hard.
- In Water for Elephants there's a creepy scene where two prostitutes get the main character drunk and start to take off his pants and start forcing him to have sex with them. He then passes out and when he wakes up, they have shaved his genitals and made him look like a clown. They don't come out and say that they raped him, but it's IMPLIED. How disturbing that scene was.
- The primary plot of Rupert Thomson's novel The Book Of Revelation a man is abducted and sexually assaulted by three unidentified women over a period of roughly two weeks.
- In the Judith Krantz novel Scruples 2, Zach is asleep and wakes up to find Pandora having sex on top of him. Then Gigi, the girl Zach actually likes walks in... Later Zach explains the situation to Gigi's stepmother, who believes him, but admits it'd be a stretch to explain.
- The version with the character waking up with the wrong woman sort of happens in one of the Flashman books, because the villain uses this trope to coerce the title character into doing his bidding; by having the woman cry rape and having the authority to get Flashman off.
- In The World According to Garp, the title character is conceived when his mother, Jenny, rapes a wounded, dying man in her care--an act made creepier because the man was mentally devolving into an infantile state and seemed to regard Jenny as a mother figure. While male-on-female rape is a constant theme in the remainder of the book, Jenny's female-on-male rape is presented (by the other characters, if not necessarily the author) as a revolutionary act, and is never referred to as rape.
- In The Film of the Book, however, someone calls it out as rape.
- Forms the primary plot motivator in the novel and later film Disclosure. An employee eventually storms away from his former lover and current Straw Feminist boss after she starts giving him fellatio. As revenge, she sues *him* for sexual harassment and the inherent Double Standard of this trope is what really vexes the male main character. Fortunately, the employee, with anonymous email tips, manages to find a sexual harassment attorney who specializes in dealing with men as victims. With her help and a helpful audio recording where the employee is heard refusing the woman's advances at least fifty times, he is fully vindicated. It's only after he finds out that the company president has succumbed to the woman's wiles that things get worse for him.
- In The Wheel of Time books, Mat encounters the widowed Queen of Ebou Dar, a nation in which men are second-class citizens. Mat is repeatedly raped by the Queen, frequently tied down at knife-point and forced to be her sexual servant against his will. This is all treated as comedy because Mat is normally a consumate flirt. The fact that he is sexually victimized is treated as his come-uppance for his previous behavior. When finally freed of the Queen's subjugation, he reflects that he will miss her. If the sexes were reversed, this would be seen as a creepy example of Stockholm Syndrome, but due to the prevailing theme of dominant, aggressive women in the series, it's more likely a case of Author Appeal.
- In the book Conrad's Time Machine, the main character is raped by three women; he says he doesn't think they should be prosecuted like male rapists should, and in fact we later discover this was part of his bachelor party that his best friend set up for him.
- In Peter David's The Woad to Wuin (sequel to Sir Apropos of Nothing), the first chapter is a parody of Lord of the Rings in which the eponymous character finds "the One Thing to Rule Them All", an artifact which makes him irresistible to women (as well as perpetually virile), including his antagonist love interest. He spends quite a few days tied down in an inn being raped by women before being rescued by a mock-Fellowship, and going off (unwillingly) to rid himself of the Thing. When he finally succeeds and returns, he of course is blamed for "forcing" himself on the woman, and she storms off.
- In an episode of You Rang M Lord Teddy hits on a plan to get out of marrying a woman he doesn't love: when she's spending the night at his house he'll creep into her bedroom and then do nothing. She'll assume he's impotent and call the wedding off. He doesn't count on how enthusiastically she'll react to finding him getting into bed with her, and although the character is quite unhappy about what's happened, it's played for laughs.
- In the Red Dwarf novel Last Human, Lister is forced to marry a hideously ugly Gelf (Genetically Engineered Life Form). The situation is played mostly for laughs, but his emotions during the sex are touched on in a curiously realistic way:
Oh, my God, he was close to climax. She really knew what she was doing. Oh, he was so disgusted. Did he have no self-control? She was descended from hippos, for God's sake.
- A similar scenario occurs in the TV series Episode "Polymorph II", though in this case Lister manages to escape before his "wife" can get his clothes off.
- In the Harry Potter books there are several mentions of love potions. All of them have a girl slipping a boy the potion, and in most cases it's played for laughs. Note that love potions make the drinker temporarily obsessed with whoever gave them the potion, so they can be compared to date rape drugs. Fred and George's shop have an entire display of them with a special owl order service that disguises them as cough potions to get them past the Aurors screening all the mail coming into Hogwarts.
- In Harry Potter one of Harry's fangirls accidentally gives Ron a love potion. Harry and Hermione are worried by the situation, but their main concern is that the potion was expired and Ron's reaction was outside normal parameters; the scene is still treated as comical.
- And then deconstructed when Dumbledore says Merope Gaunt's use of love potions to elope with Tom Riddle was no different than using the Imperius Curse (an illegal mind-control spell) since Merope kept Tom Riddle drugged for months, forcing him to leave his family and live with her against his will, which is a bit worse than snogging someone who wouldn't have snogged you under normal circumstances. It's possible the Double Standard is supposed to be in-universe, and the Merope thing is to highlight what the reader thought was harmless. And Voldemort actually admires his mother for drugging and raping his father and detesting him for naturally getting the fuck out when the potion she used wore off. This is mentioned by Dumbledore as another sign of his utter insanity.
- Played straight in Ken Follett's "World Without End". Merthin is raped by Griselda, the daughter of the man of whom he is an apprentice. It turns out it was all a plot by Elfric so he would not have to give Merthin a free set of tools and a full guild membership, however.
- The Star Wars Expanded Universe does this with Dathomir. Luke even moralizes about everything wrong with this trope. Then later Luke and Ben go back to Dathomir, and Ben asks "What kind of woman could I find here anyway?"
- In Graham McNeill's Warhammer 40000 Horus Heresy novel False Gods one of the many indignities Maggard suffers as a bodyguard is being his mistress's Sex Slave. She thinks it's this trope, and in fact some recompense for his fighting ability winning him more respect from the Astartes than she gets.
- In Fallen Angels (by Niven/Pournelle/Flynn), Captain Lee Arteria (female) announces that she will be taking Bob Needleton's seed with her when she leaves. They've only just met, and when he hesitates, she explicitly says: "I didn't ask." There are several other people watching, and only one person asks "Shouldn't we be trying to rescue him?" However, he doesn't bear a grudge.
- In A Working of Stars by Debra Doyle and D. James Macdonald, a spy, Iulan Vai takes advantage of a convalescing Arekhon's semi-consciousness to have sex with him even though his semi-conscious state means he cannot truly consent. Arekhon believes she is his lover, Elaeli. Even more creepy--this act becomes the start of a relationship.
- In the Riftwar series, while on the Dasati homeworld, rebel leader Naureen, who's sheltering hero Pug and co, conscripts Pug's son Magnus as her boy toy. Magnus clearly isn't okay with this, but neither Pug nor Magnus really objects, and the whole thing is treated as not a big deal. The incident isn't mentioned again.
- Law and Order Special Victims Unit:
- In the episode "Ridicule", the unit tries to disprove this after bachlorette party ends with a male stripper being handcuffed to the bed and gang-raped by three women. This trope was both played straight and averted, in that the reactions of the male detectives, were outright skepticism that a man having an erection could not consent and questioning the victim's occupation and the costume he wears (veering vary close to the Gender Flip of the "If she's dressed slutty, she's asking for it" argument), with Tutuola suggesting that some would call 3 women on 1 man lucky, while Olivia's and the Chief's were both of how an erection is a physical response, not a psychological one (and even friction from clothing can cause one, as any teenage boy who's had the "blackboard incident" can tell you) and "Hey, a rape victim is a rape victim, and a rapist is a rapist! Now shut up, we've got work to do."
- Another had a woman slipping talented men roofies so she could get their genetic material. They all take this one seriously though.
- And then there was the time Jason Stackhouse was gang-raped by the female population of an entire town. Word of God implies that this was his "comeuppance" for his life as a lady's man.
- Star Trek the Next Generation
- Played for laughs, at least to some degree, in the episode "First Contact". Disguised as an alien, Commander Riker is trying to escape when a female alien confronts him. She agrees to help him, but only if he has sex with her first. It is hard to imagine Troi agreeing to have sex with a male alien to escape. Which is made even worse when you consider that he was seriously injured at the time.
- Makes another appearance in the episode "Liaisons". Picard is marooned on an alien world with a woman intent on making him love her. After trying to let her down easy, she becomes more aggressive and forces him onto the ground. Sex does not actually occur as Picard is able to wrestle free, but nonetheless, he emerges visibly upset. Picard cracks a joke about how what just went down could be considered a crime, but otherwise seems none the worse for wear.
- Star Trek Enterprise has its own example. Trip visits an alien vessel where a female alien shows him a 'game' that involves touching ice cubes to people's mouth and getting sparky effects off it. After the ship departs and continues on, it turns out the game was their sex act, and Trip is now pregnant. All the other characters blame him for this, with T'Pol making a comment that he couldn't even control himself during a short visit. When they find the alien woman again, her only explanation is that she thought it was okay because she didn't know he could actually conceive from their version of sex. The episode itself plays the whole situation as comedy, with pregnant Trip becoming increasingly 'girlish'. Fan reaction ranged from bemusement to contempt and outrage.
- In Picket Fences, a man is raped by a woman "Sharon Stone" style, but she thought he was "saying no when he really means yes." During the trial, the Amoral Attorney makes a big joke out of the male victim's experience.
- In the 70's TV-movie It Couldn't Happen to a Nicer Guy, a stripper orders a family man to strip at gunpoint "for kicks"; needless to say, the film is a comedy, but centers on the fact of how no one sympathizes with him.
- In Peep Show Mark, the perpetual Butt Monkey, is raped by a woman. However, this is a subversion as when he tells his friends, an addict and a Casanova, they attempt to convince him that he was raped and didn't merely have an awkward moment. He uncomfortably maintains that it wasn't a rape because nothing went into his anus. Like everything else on the show, however, they simultaneously play it for laughs.
Jez: Do you have feelings of guilt and shame and self-loathing?
Mark: You know I do, don't load the question.
- In Farscape, Grayza seems to be a believer in this trope: when about to rape Crichton, she boasts that her interrogations are so much better than those of Scorpius. Crichton doesn't agree in the slightest, and takes the time to remind her during Grayza's Villainous Breakdown.
- 70s soap opera parody Soap has a plotline in which Danny Dallas breaks into the house of Mafia boss Charles Lefkowitz only to be caught by his daughter, who demands sex from him at gunpoint. This is played for comedy, naturally.
- That 70s Show, Kelso is essentially cornered in his van by Laurie and she forces herself on him while he protests, but gradually the nos turn to yeses. The entire incident is Played for Laughs; Hyde listens outside casually, even pulling up a chair, and later on Kelso is laughing happily that he got to have sex with her,
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer: Xander, a while after consensual sex with Faith in "The Zeppo", goes to visit her in "Consequences" and she pins him to the bed and almost rapes him, before deciding to strangle him instead. Although Angel, who rescues him, is clearly outraged at Faith, there's no reference to the incident after the episode in question except a small "hear, hear" of agreement from Xander when Giles says he doesn't want Faith in combat around civilians in "Doppelgangland". Buffy even assigns Xander to go-look-for-Faith duty in "Consequences" itself after the incident. One wonders if he told anyone about it. When Faith reappears near the end of the series, Xander never once says "Wait a minute, she sexually assaulted me, I don't want her on my team."
- Another Xander example is the second season where, with Amy's help, he tries to cast a love spell on Cordelia, his ex. Unfortunately, it backfires, and every woman in Sunnydale BUT Cordy is now madly in love with him. None of them succeed, and it was his fault, but it's still a little unnerving.
- That would be more of an inversion since he's technically Mind Raping every woman in Sunnydale and it's Played for Laughs. But it's quickly subverted when the mad women aren't played for comedy any more and Xander and Cordelia are in actual danger from them.
- Another Faith example: having sex with Riley while she was in Buffy's body. Curiously, the show focused much more on how Buffy was upset about this and had trouble trusting Riley afterwards, and very little regarding Riley's reaction.
- Another example: Buffy, while invisible, throws Spike against the wall and strips him before he figures out who she is and she performs oral sex on him after he tells her to leave. We cut away before we can really figure it out. Note that, later that same season, Spike attempts to violently rape Buffy and is treated as a complete monster for it. Of course, this is Spike and Buffy we're talking about, so it's a bit of a gray area...
- Let's not forget Miss French seducing the boys of Sunnydale High. This is wrong because A) she is their teacher, B) she drugs them first, C) they do not consent, and D) she is really a giant preying mantis who decapitates her mates during intercourse.
- Another Xander example is the second season where, with Amy's help, he tries to cast a love spell on Cordelia, his ex. Unfortunately, it backfires, and every woman in Sunnydale BUT Cordy is now madly in love with him. None of them succeed, and it was his fault, but it's still a little unnerving.
- Not rape, but sexual harassment: Joey is offered a role in a soap opera-- in exchange for sleeping with the female casting director. In the end he refuses, only for her to offer him a bigger role on the same terms, and he does end up sleeping with her. The entire scenario is played for laughs, as the other five place bets on whether or not he would do it, and his only qualms about the situation are about his pride being hurt that he wouldn't have truly "earned" the role. Never once does it come up that it's completely illegal and morally reprehensible for employers to solicit sex from employees (or potential employees) as a criterion for hiring or promotion.
- There is another example when Phoebe starts a relationship with Ursula's (her identical twin sister) ex-boyfriend, Eric. Phoebe shows up at Eric's house, expecting to "pick up where they'd left off" earlier in the episode, only to have Eric mention how he's still quite tired from the sex they had earlier in the day. Only, Phoebe and Eric never slept together, and they soon realise that Ursula had come over, and believing she was Phoebe, Eric slept with her. If this had been twin brothers and a girlfriend, it would have turned into a completely different sort of show all together.
- Desperate Housewives - Orson's ex-wife drugs him, rapes him, and tries to get pregnant to force them back into marriage. Though Bree does call it rape, it's mostly played straight/for laughs (no trauma, no shock, no nothing). One can only imagine the internet backdraft if Orson was the rapist. At the very least when Bree finds out she is so disgusted and furious that she punches the bitch to the floor on the spot.
- In Stargate SG-1. The Goa'uld queen Hathor puts Daniel Jackson under heavy-duty mind control and has her way with him in order to create more Goa'uld larvae. When the all-female task force find him afterwards, he is catatonic and surrounded by obvious signs of a struggle. At the end of the episode, when he admits that a lot of the larval DNA is going to be his, Jack O'Neill reacts in disgust. It never comes up again until Hathor's next (and last) appearance, which amounts solely to Daniel refusing to look at her and saying that he "tries not to" think about their last encounter.
- In the episode "Brief Candle", Jack is drugged by the woman who proceeds to 'have sex' with him. No one--not the characters, not even the writers--seem to realize that this is rape, and Jack and this woman then proceed to develop a true friendship not based on sex. Or something.
- A version of "Sexual Harassment Is OK If It's Female On Male" in Stargate Atlantis: In the episode "Duet", a female marine ends up sharing McKay's body by accident. After they argue a bit about who's in charge, she simply takes over his body. Later she wrests control from him to force him to kiss his girlfriend (which he'd been too shy to do), and then to kiss Dr. Beckett against the man's will. She did all this without ever asking McKay's permission, and while ignoring his protests. It's a comedy episode and we're supposed to side with the woman during all of this. There are no consequences for her, except starting a brief relationship with Dr. Beckett, which he later ends offscreen, because he can't stop remembering that first kiss she planted on him while using McKay's body, which may have been a lame attempt of Author's Saving Throw.
- And don't forget the part where she stripped him naked in the middle of the night after stealing his body. He seemed pretty upset by that but the viewer is apparently expected to laugh at it.
- Jim Profit in Profit was sexually abused by his stepmother, who blackmails him back into the sexual relationship upon discovering that he has become wealthy and powerful. Despite the fact that he is clearly unhappy whenever he's forced to engage in this behavior, and her repeated demands that he allow her to tie him up and beat him bloody, the writers and some of the fans seem to view it as a kinky relationship, not a series of sexual assaults. Fans often excuse the relationship because Jim is so wicked, ignoring that his stepmother is actually one of his Freudian Excuses for being the Heroic Sociopath and that if their genders were reversed she'd be one of the most vilified characters of all time.
- In Swedish miniseries Glappet, one of the female protagonists has sex with a guy who's half passed out at a party. He wakes up knowing that it happened, but not who the girl was, and while he feels that it was rape, when he tries to talk to a therapist about it the therapist just laughs at him. As for the protagonist, she treats it as a regular one-night-stand, but eventually comes to realize that the guy feels differently, and apologizes.
- Addressed in Misfits: Alisha has the ability to overwhelm people with lust just by touching them; once she got over the initial shock, she begins using it to draw in sexual partners. Apparently, she doesn't consider anything wrong with this--up until she tries it out on Curtis, who knows about her power; he reacts with disgust and anger (not shying away from calling the experience rape in later episodes). Intially petulant, claiming that Curtis is "the one with the problem", Alisha begins to lose confidence when she realises that her supposed "boyfriends" can't even remember what happened; eventually, she gives up on Power Perversion Potential once and for all when she almost ends up getting raped while using her power.
- An episode of The Inside called "The Perfect Couple" had the FBI trying to find a serial killer that raped women and then shot them in the genitalia. It turned out a Former Child Star was having his wife pick up gay and bisexual women for him to rape while she watched, and afterwards she could not stand that they had been with him so she shot them in the vagina. After he found out that she had murdered them (he thought she was just dropping them off back at their homes), he offered to make it up to her by having them abduct a man for her to rape and him to kill. The man they abducted was the bartender who had been hitting on the main character for the entire show and once had an affair with the wife. He is tied up and raped by the wife but before they have a chance to shoot him the FBI arrived and the evil couple decides to use him as a hostage. They then trade him for the leader of the FBI team and the husband is shot by the wife when he said the murders were all her idea. The bartender showed up again in the next episode, hitting on the main character, no worse for wear and even joking about the experience. The episode after that begins with the two of them in bed together.
- Played for laughs in Eastwick, where Joanna has the power to make men do what she wants. In one episode she used it to prove to her love interest that she wasn't interested in him by flirting with a guy at a party. When the guy started to back off from her, she used her mindpowers to get him to have sex with her. And then we find out that not only is the guy she slept with gay, he's in a committed relationship. It's made 100% clear that the guy would never have slept voluntarily with Joanna, and yet it's played as another 'oh, that silly Joanna, she has such bad luck with men!' moment and she's the one who feels embarrassed and humiliated.
- Happens in Dollhouse once. Senator Daniel Perrin is drugged and then implied to have been raped by Echo's current imprint for a video that would ruin his reputation. He suffers no emotional trauma, he just wants her as evidence for the existence of the Dollhouse. Of course, since he's also a doll and has been programmed to only think about bringing down the Dollhouse, this ends up making sense.
- Played straight in Glee. The principal wakes up in bed after Sue spikes his drink. She threatens to tell his wife unless she gets her job back. She takes a picture but otherwise reveals she's actually fully clothed. This is Played for Laughs.
- A standard soap opera plot is a woman deliberately getting a man drunk (and in some cases, drugging him) in order to have sex with him (sometimes pretending to be his wife or girlfriend, once he's too inebriated to tell the difference). At the very least she gets into bed with him and lets him think that sex took place. The woman in question is almost always condemned for her actions, but rarely is she ever referred to as a rapist, when if the genders were reversed, no one would hesitate to apply this term to a man.
- An especially twisty version on The Young and The Restless. Not only does the drunken man make advances to his wife's friend on his own, rather than her seducing him (it was dark and his inebriation plus their resemblance led him to genuinely mistake her for his wife), when he realizes his mistake and confronts the woman, asking why she didn't tell him who she really was, she claims that he's the one who forced himself on her and that she didn't protest because she was too frightened to do anything.
- On a second season episode of CSI, called "Overload" Nick revealed to Catherine that he was raped by a last minute replacement baby sitter when he was 9 years old. While it was obviously a traumatic experience he has not made any references to it since then, presumably because of this trope, not even in the tenth season episode "Death and the Maiden" when he is deeply affected by the case of a young teen who was sexually assaulted (albeit by a man). When Nick goes to a rape counselor for the boy, she accused him of not really caring about the victims and said that most male victims would not admit being raped. Instead of proving her wrong on both accounts, he simply said that she did not care about him because he had a badge and left.
- The episode "Flesh and Stone" of Doctor Who has a scene with companion Amy throwing herself at the Doctor, kissing him forcefully and trying to take his clothes off, with the Doctor trying to push her away and put his clothes back to rights. It's played mostly for laughs, but if it had been a male character trying to undress a physically and vocally unwilling female character, it would look like a set-up for a Date Rape Averted plotline. She does promptly come back to her senses, though.
- Another PG version of this happens in "New Earth", though it's more a case of general Double Standard Rape (Sci Fi), as both genders get abused with impunity. A female villain, who had previously murdered a bunch of people, possesses Rose's body, gropes Rose's body, and then uses it to kiss the Doctor forcefully. It's all played for laughs and he doesn't seem to have a problem with it even after he finds out that he was sexually harassed. Later he lets her possess his body, and she uses this opportunity to make salacious comments about his 'parts' and imply that she was reading Rose's private thoughts while possessing her. Again, all played for laughs. At the end, the completely unapologetic villain is forgiven for everything.
- In the Japanese drama series Jotei Kaoruko, based on the manga of the same name, a male character is raped by a woman he is sharing an apartment with. She ignores him when he tells her to stop, and he appears to be distressed; but later in the same episode is still living with her and while he is briefly upset, seems to get over it as soon as she tells him she has feelings for him. The incident isn't mentioned again.
- In Engine Sentai Go-onger, when the team first meets the Stripperiffic villainess Kegareshia, she responds to Hanto by lashing him with her whip, standing on his back and then taunting him with seductive "baby talk." He is visibly scared and upset but is able to throw her off him. It's played for laughs and possibly mild Ship Tease but had it been a male villain and Saki, the only girl on the team, it would have come across as creepy and at least an implied threat of rape.
- Sunao ni Narenakute has "Linda's" boss blackmailing him into sex. He is devastated at this, mostly because he's in love with Nakaji but the show does imply that what the boss does is made worse because she's overweight, ugly and middle-aged, as if having an attractive woman force herself on you is somehow less wrong.
- The Confessors on Legend of the Seeker father offspring by men who are "confessed", i.e. turned into the confessor's lifelong love slave. No one cares since sleeping with any man would automatically confess them anyway and the confessed were usually enemy soldiers in their former lives.
- Deconstructed by Kahlan's father, who became an abusive parents to make up for the years he lost confessed to her mother. When Kahlan tries to justify her mother confessing him with the maxim that confessors don't take honorable men as mates, he relates his backstory of how his father drafted him into the D'Haran army to keep him from becoming a carpenter and his confession came right before he was due to leave from his tour of duty.
- And in the original books, Confessors are basically social pariahs for this sort of thing. Nobody wants to even touch one for fear of this happening.
- On General Hospital, Jasper "Jax" Jacks is kidnapped by his brother's Psycho Ex-Girlfriend, Irina. He is beaten over several days and then handcuffed to a bed, gagged and raped more then once. When he is finally rescued, everyone says that the situation was simply him cheating on his wife. In fact, when the writers were asked about it, they outright stated that men cannot get raped. They eventually refused to acknowledge the plot entirely, despite the amount of controversy it brought. However, a few years later Jax's stepson Micheal was raped as well. Another plot line the writers, so far, have refused to acknowledge.
- In the Mutant X episode "Deadly Desire", an evil mutant puts Brennan under her pheromonal control and then has sex with him. No one treats this as rape. A bad thing that he's working with her, but not rape. In fact, they criticize him for "acting like a jerk" after he's cured. Aargh.
- Degrassi: The Next Generation: A male student meets an older woman through an online video game. He only wants to play the game, and is disturbed and repulsed when she attempts to make a move on him. Of course, it's noteworthy that said woman is rather homely and unattractive--of course any male teenager would be out of his mind to not want to be statutory-raped by a "hot" older woman.
- In an early episode of ER, Carter is accidentally knocked out by a classmate. When he comes to, he's surprised to find himself in a hospital gown and in a bed. The nurse proceeds to gleefully tell him that since he was unconscious, since they were already checking him for injuries, and since the medical student was new and needed to practice performing a physical exam, she allowed her to perform a full exam on Carter, including his genitalia and a rectal exam, despite the fact that Carter was unconscious and therefore unable to give or deny consent. The entire scene is of course, played for laughs, despite the fact that Carter is genuinely freaked out and upset--though his main concern seems to be that his genitalia were classified as "average", rather than "normal", as Carter insists. When Carter asks if they're just joking with him, they respond by laughing even more and refusing to answer him, thus leaving the matter up in the air, leaving him even more freaked out and for the rest of the day, subjected to relentless teasing from his other colleagues. A male doctor pulling a similar stunt would have been arrested in two seconds, and even if he were merely joking and hadn't really done anything, he'd still likely face a severe reprimand.
- In "The Ghost of Ohatsu Tenjin", part of a series of short ghost stories, the (very young) male protagonist seems afraid of the advances of the succubus-like ghost. His father walks in on her molesting him and just goes "good for you, son, carry on." It's Played for Laughs.
- At least once on the Doctor Phil show, a man tried to counter his wife's claim of Domestic Abuse by saying that he was raped by his wife. Dr. Phil did not even consider the possibility that he might be telling the truth.
- Happened in the BET Sitcom 'The Game' where a character blackmailed Malik into sleeping with her by saying she would tell everyone he raped her if he didn't. In case you don't watch the show, Malik is a football player, and this would likely destroy his life completely, especially since he has done many questionable things already. Anyway, after they slept together (the show never acknowledges that this is rape, even with the look of despair on his face) she hits him in the back of the head and makes him go another round. Cue Laugh Track... She never got called out on this, got a Freudian Excuse, and even walked out of it relatively cleanly, much cleaner than Malik himself did.
- Series two of Psychoville introduces the character of Hattie, a Fag Hag who is asked to marry her gay friend's boyfriend in order for him to remain in the UK. She becomes instantly infatuated with him, convinces herself that their marriage is real, and eventually blackmails him into sex--he is Iranian and could be executed for homosexuality if he is sent back to his own country. All of this is largely played for laughs, though with the obvious overtone that Hattie is not in the best of mental health.
- Examined in The George Lopez Show. When George and Angie find out a sex offender is living in their neighborhood, George gathers a mob of neighbors to harass the person at their house. When it turns out to be a woman, everyone leaves. However, Angie still thinks the person is a threat. Later in the episode, Max ends up at the woman's house, and they all think she was trying to rape him, but it turns out he showed up at her house and wanted to have sex with her.
- One infamous episode of Too Close For Comfort has Monroe kidnapped and raped by two women. Oddly enough, only Mr. Rush sees Monroe as the victim of a crime while his wife and two daughters think Monroe somehow "cooperated" with his rapists.
- Pretty much the entire premise of Lost Girl. The main character, a succubus, routinely uses her magical roofies to get what she wants (usually from men). It's stated outright that this is what she brings to her and Kenzi's PI business. She also spent years draining the life out of everyone she had sex with. In the penultimate episode of Season 1, Dyson, a wolf shifter, is attacked by the succubus Aife and forced to have sex with her just as the main character, his girlfriend Bo, also a succubus, walks in on them. He was not coerced with "magical succubus roofie" but simply overpowered by her and is definitely depicted as him struggling and unwilling. It is later referred to as a seduction by Bo and no one ever talks about the fact he was unwilling. Nor do they seem sympathetic to him when he returns after a 3 week abscense, seemingly completely mystified why he would have taken off for so long. However, his character behaves like a man that has been violated, by putting himself in a similar situation of vulnerablity with the Norn, then later goes on a spree of getting into bar brawls up and down the East coast, and cuts himself off from Bo. (It's written however that all of his behavior is due to what the Norn did and not anything to do with his rape at the hands of Aife.)
- In an early episode of Star Trek Deep Space Nine, Odo comes to Sisko, openly distraught, and asks him to stop Lwaxana Troi from sexually harrassing him--her status as an ambassador means he feels he can't say anything himself for fear of insulting her. Sisko finds the whole thing hilarious and suggests that it would do Odo good to take her up on the offer. In the same episode Sisko tells Dr Bashir about an incident a few years before when he punched a male ambassador in the face for making advances to a female member of his crew.
- In an episode of Harry's Law one of Tommy's clients claimed he was raped by a woman. One of the other lawyers believed since he organized it wasn't rape, and Tommy even suggested to drop the case. The man keeps Tommy going by asking if he would be saying the same thing if he was a woman rapped by a man.
- In, of all things, a commercial for chocolate candies: tennis player Roger Federer is stopped in the airport by two attractive female transportation-security officials, who confiscate his candy and threaten him with a strip search. It's played for comedy, although one can't imagine a version starring (say) Maria Sharapova or Serena Williams and two male security people.
- Firefly: In Our Mrs. Reynolds, Saffron goes into Mal's room and starts trying to get him to sleep with her, even though he repeatedly says he won't. It's zigzagged back and forth--Mal does want to sleep with Saffron, but refuses to do so until she convinces him that she's doing it because she wants to, and not because she believes he has the right to do so regardless of her consent. And when it's revealed that she just did the whole thing for fun and screwed over and tried to kill Mal and his crew, he was disgusted.
- An episode of Flight of the Conchords has Bret dating a woman who becomes increasingy pushy and aggressive in demanding sex from him, finally outright lying to and manipulating him to get him to capitulate. It's a little shaky on how it's portrayed; Bret is clearly traumaised afterwards and the woman is shown to be deeply unpleasant, but some of Bret's comments about the experience (such as how it only lasted a few minutes and she fell asleep right after) and Jermaine pretending to be him to another woman hoping for the same appear to be playing it partially for laughs.
- Adam and Yvonne in Being Human. Although Adam is actually a 47 year old vampire so no statutory rape actually occurred, Yvonne, a middle aged woman, entered into a sexual relationship with him believing he was a 14 year old. Yet she is portrayed sympathetically and their relationship as ultimately a good thing.
- In the 2nd episode of Shameless, Sheila handcuffs a naked Frank to the bed without even asking if he's comfortable with it. Frank is shown as being extremely uncomfortable throughout the whole scene and asks that "stop" be their safeword. When he sees her pull out a GIANT dildo, he sees "stop" immediately but it's implied that she anally penetrates him with the dildo anyways as he screams out "stop" again. This is played for laughs and Frank gets over it pretty quickly. Imagine if the genders were reversed
- In the Mystery Science Theater 3000 episode mocking the the Ed Wood written film The Violent Years the rape scene is treated as being okay by Crow, while the original film does not.
Crow: Rape victim says "Thank you! Thank you!"
- It remains to be seen whether Once Upon a Time will fall into this trope--so far the lack of attention has been justified by the other characters simply not knowing about the situation. It seems male-on-female rape is generally acknowledged by other characters in a work, though, so a milder version of this trope may well be at play. Of course, no male-on-female rapes have occurred in-universe as a basis for comparison, and such a plotline would probably be considered "dark" for the show.
- Given that the episode in question was rated TV-PG, whereas other episodes have been rated TV-14 simply for having a bit of action violence, it seems the network falls prey to the trope.
- And fandom definitely does. And how--questioning whether torturing and threatening to kill someone if they don't consent to sex and later brainwashing them into thinking the relationship is consensual is "really rape" or even flat out calling the victim "lucky" because the rapist is an attractive woman popular in fandom.
- Somewhat of a subversion in Pink's music video for "Please Don't Leave Me", where the singer holds her boyfriend captive after he attempts to leave her. Although rape isn't explicitly shown, it's strongly implied. She's portrayed as a total madwoman, but at least gets her comeuppance at the end.
- INXS' video for "Taste It." It's either this or some particularly bizarre BDSM. It does not help when Hutchance is screaming "Never! Never! Never!" as his clothes are being cut off.
- In Britney Spears's "Womanizer", the singer seduces her husband using several disguises, possible to test his fidelity. Nothing too bad at first. But her advances gain force as the video progresses, till she's violently taking him against his will. At the end of the video, she beats him into submission, and all three of her personas rape him.
- In Pretty Ricky's "My Body", the first verse begins "I don't know why, but the ladies call ol' baby blue the sticker/They take me and rape me and make me they victim--" Word of God is that lyric wasn't supposed to be taken literally, but it's hard not to.
- In Katy Perry's "Last Friday Night", her alter ego Kathy Beth Terry is seen stroking the abdomen of an unconscious jock and then later peeking into his underwear to check out his package. Technically, this is considered sexual assault as sleep negates consent.
- In the Filk Song Banned From Argo by Leslie Fish, in which the crew of the Enterprise get, well, banned from Argo, Nurse Chapel uses an "odd green potion guaranteed to cause Pon Farr" to take advantage of Spock. This is Played for Laughs and treated no more seriously than Scotty and Chekov's drunken parking violation.
Mythology and Religion
- Somewhat common in Greek Mythology where the prevailing feeling seemed to be "rape is ok when it is the strong on the weak." Perhaps the best know example of this was The Amazons which as a Gender Flipped version of a typical warrior race would regularly rape prisoners of both genders just like their male counterparts. This was a major part of Greco-Roman culture. Any kind of sex was fine, including rape, as long as it involved domination of a social subordinate (usually a slave or wife; or in some cases, such as Spartan society, a younger male protege). To submit, sexually, to someone weaker or socially inferior was considered highly shameful, and grounds for anything from exploitative humour to outright ostracism.
- In the legend of King Arthur, Sir Galahad was conceived when his father, Sir Lancelot, was drugged and raped twice. While the person who drugged him (Morgan Le Fay) is typically seen as a villain, both the rapes' mastermind (the Fisher King who wanted the perfect grandson) and the rapist herself (Princess Elaine) were not shown to be bad people.
- Aristophanes's The Assemblywomen (or Ecclesiazusae) has a couple old hags dragging a young man away from his young and presumably beautiful lover to force him to obey the new laws governing sex. One wonders whether they'd already grabbed an ugly man.
- Shakespere's Midsummer Night's Dream comes very close to playing this straight. The man, Bottom is is the victim of a supernatural practical joke, and has the head of a donkey. Titania, the fairy queen, is the victim of another practical joke, dosed with a love potion, and forced to fall desperately in love with the next thing she sees. That would be the aforementioned Bottom. As soon as love-mad Titania casts eyes on Bottom, she wants him. Bottom, (who's having a rough day) decides to head home, not realizing that she's a fairy queen, and fairy queens aren't used to hearing the word "No".
Titania: Out of this wood do not desire to go:
Thou shalt remain here, whether thou wilt or no.
I am a spirit of no common rate;
The summer still doth tend upon my state.
- The trope is dodged at the last minute when Bottom decides that being held captive by a pretty, sexually ravenous goddess isn't such a bad deal, and offers no further protest. To be sure, Titania isn't herself, but the scene of her capturing Bottom is never played as anything but hilarity, not say, kidnapping and sex slavery. Also in the play, there's the fact that Demitrius threatens to rape Helena if she doesn't stop following him around and this is pretty much glossed over, with the two ultimately being Happily Married at the end, so the Double Standard doesn't sting as much.
- Venus & Adonis. "Backward she push'd him, as she would be thrust." Thank you, Shakespeare. Originally from Ovid's Metamorphosis.
- In Moulin Rouge, scenes where women push sex on men who are not interested are seen as awkward at worst, but scenes where men attempt to push sex on women are seen as violent and horrifying.
- In an example blending slightly with Double Standard Rape (Divine on Mortal), Prior of Angels in America seems strangely blasé, especially given he's in love with someone and gay, about how an angel fucked him with her eight vaginas when recounting the tale to his friend Belize. But, after the hell of a time he had in the entire first act leading up to the angel's arrival, maybe he was just too jaded to care by then.
- Bully: The protagonist helps the cafeteria lady slip sedatives to a male teacher; it is strongly implied that she aims to take him home and rape him. Imagine the Moral Guardians reaction if the sexes were reversed.
- In Super Robot Wars Z; one of the Original Generation, Xine Espio, hints at wanting to commit night rape, if her battle quotes are to be trusted.
- Fallout 3 has one quest--A Nice Day for a Right Wedding--where you help a young woman drug the man she has a crush on with an aphrodisiac so she can effectively force him into wanting her. And it is treated as a good thing, netting you a boost to your karma! The only NPC who even knows about the drug is the one who wanted to marry the victim. The victim actually blames himself, since as far as he knows he lost control of himself and raped her. He marries her thinking it's the only right thing he can do at this point, but is obviously traumatised by the whole thing. The cherry on the whole Moral Dissonance sundae is that the victim is an acolyte who has chosen a life of celibacy and service and made it abundantly clear that is what he wants from his life!
- In the quest The Nuka-Cola Challenge, a hopelessly naive woman asks the player to gather a rare (presumably addictive) flavor of cola for her, which would generate good karma upon completion. Then her only neighbor asks the player to sell the bottles to him instead, so he can use them in an attempt to seduce her, but doing so gives the player bad karma. It's true that the guy is a little sleazy, but he has so far taken "no" for an answer and his most aggressive plan is to give her a gift she already wants and then hope she changes her mind. So, the takeaway is that enabling an addiction for money is a good thing, but enabling an addiction for sex is a bad thing. In a Zig-Zag, giving him some seductive pyjamas from a side quest to assist him in pairing up with the girl is considered a good thing, despite that she doesn't understand the sexual Hurricane of Euphemisms. Perhaps he should ask "Do You Want to Copulate?" instead.
- In Grand Theft Auto San Andreas C.J. is tied up and raped by Cesar’s Ax Crazy cousin Catalina during a Cutscene. She thinks C.J is her boyfriend but he is only working with her because she helps him get money by robbing place. C.J. begs her to stop and Catalina is depicted as being crazier than a shithouse rat, and it plays Black Comedy Rape as much as anything. Afterwards C.J. is visibly disturbed but keeps working with her, and she ends up being a Karma Houdini and runs away in the end with some poor mute named Claude (the guy from GTA 3). Of course, considering she is the Big Bad in another game, this was a Foregone Conclusion.
- In the Capcom vs. Whatever series of games, Morrigan has a new super move named Eternal Slumber. Succubus nature aside, she's the protagonist of Darkstalkers and frequently portrayed as a hero.
- This is one of the many, many possible ways to die in Leisure Suit Larry 2: Looking for Love (In Several Wrong Places), where Larry wins a pleasure cruise for two, but has to share a cabin with an elderly woman who will instantly rape Larry the first chance she gets.
- Subverted in Dragon Age Origins. There are rumors about Morrigan's mother Flemeth and that she kidnaps men to have her way with them. It's only mentioned in passing at first and not enough detail is given to determine whether or not it was definitely rape, but later on it's hinted that it was a rather horrible experience and that she kills them afterwards.
- Star Control II has a part where a Syreen captain (a Green-Skinned Space Babe, essentially) turns off the lights and proposes to have some 'fun' with you. Even if you outright refuse, she'll still have her 'fun' whether you want it or not.
Oh, Captain... I would never think of doing something unpleasant to you... quite the opposite in fact.
- Played straight by Metal Gear Solid 2 Sons of Liberty and its fans: Otacon is screwed up and self-loathing enough to view being sexually assaulted as a minor by his step-mother (a woman in a position of authority over him) as 'being seduced' or 'a relationship', the fans have no such excuse.
- Horribly, horribly Averted in the ending of F.E.A.R 2: Project Origin.
- Shiki's dreams of Arcueid in Tsukihime. Actually a subversion as not only is it seen as a dumb (and humiliating/very inappropriate) move on Arcueid's part, he calls her on it and explains very pointedly that that is not the way to thank someone. Also played with in that Arcueid didn't intend for the dream to take the form of a sexual assault and just wanted him to have pleasant sex dream with whoever he subconsciously wanted...not realizing that not only are Len's dreams rather too realistic (meaning Shiki reacted in a completely normal fashion to X girl showing up in his room), but she's also not one to give up just because a dream is turning out badly.
- And then in the 'sequel', Kagetsu Tohya, Len does it to him again. Only this time, she's in her true form... that of a ten-year-old girl. And he cares even less. It's implied this time that she was just having an Erotic Dream about him and her powers were making it real, so she didn't do it on purpose. Doesn't really change the fact she did it on purpose the first time...
- Karura in Utawarerumono. First, she gets Hakuoro to agree to help her country out. That's nice. But then as 'paying' him, she drugs him into having sex with her, and later when confronting Suwonkas she starts groping and kissing him in an attempt to piss Suwonkas off. And also because she just wanted to. Now imagine if these roles had been reversed.
- Sharin no Kuni: Ririko's playing with Kenichi is treated as a mere quirk of hers instead of as the borderline pedophilliac action it is. It's borderline not because he isn't a little kid, but because her own age is rather hard to determine. But this is treated as one of her many quirks and she's even one of his romance options. The portrayal is quite different from the abuse that Natsumi went through.
- Monster Girl Quest: generally, when monster girls try to rape Luka it's a bad thing. But still there are cutscenes where he has sexual favors forced on him despite his protests and it's laughed off.
- Otome Rensa: Heart of the Distortion. While the game has no English translation, it's clear by the CG that this is what's going on.
- In Bizarre Uprising, when a male character is raped, and the logic that because he is aroused means he wants it is used explicitly.
- Dominic Deegan reveals that this happened on his first date with Rachel Hart. Not only does he not get any sympathy, but his friendship with her doesn't seem in any way tarnished.
- Sexy Losers plays it straight with the "Kenta's Horny Mom" strips, where the mother lusts after her son... but is then Lampshaded with a Gender Swap, to point out just how wrong it really is... and appropriately titled "Gender Incrimination".
Touro Maebshi: (post-beating) I don't understand... it was funny when it was a mom and her son. It's the same fucking joke.
- Ménage à 3:
- Gary is tricked into giving oral sex to his favorite porn star when she makes him think she's his male roommate in drag (It Makes Sense in Context). When the deception is revealed nobody cares that this is a sex crime, not even Gary (though the porn star feels somewhat guilty).
Gary: I am totally OK with this situation!
- Earlier, we see Gary nervously unable to say no to having sex with two women. Despite being very, very clearly uncomfortable with the whole situation, the two women essentially force him into a threesome without ever asking for his consent. Moments later, he's nearly catatonic and despairing at the very notion, and says he didn't have a choice in the matter. He seems to accept it eventually, and is later seen "preparing" for it (with all the enthusiasm of a man on death row), but little, if any, time is spent on considering his consent--it's just assumed, despite his attempted protests, that he'll be into it.
- Whateley Universe: Sara simultaneously rapes and mind rapes Jobe, while transforming him into a female against his wishes. This is played for laughs despite the fact that his survival chance and that he is able to keep his mind/Memories intact were pretty low. She is also emotionally devastated and disgusted with what she did after the act. The creatures he creates to kill her before and after that Act are also one of the very few ways to grow strong enough to even have a any chance against her "relatives" when they arrive. This kind of crosses over into Double Standard Rape (Divine on Mortal) / Omniscient Morality License territory, as in "it's OK because I'm a demon-goddess in training and my alien inhuman super-intelligence assures me that it's all for a good cause".
- The SleepOver series (currently being redrawn) involves Sora of Kingdom Hearts being at a sleepover with several female Final Fantasy and KH characters. The girls take drugged food, so they all want to have sex with him. Sora's attempts to evade their amorous attentions are played largely for laughs. It is wildly popular. Given that many of the women there are capable of tying him in a knot if they wanted to, it's even closer to the genderflipped version than would otherwise be the case.
- Zig-zagged in Chakona Space when Malena uses an overdose of mating pheromones to make Garrek impregnate her. In foxtaur society males are the protected gender so her actions are recognized as abhorrent and she is forced to leave their village, but she didn't know that Garrek would completely lose his will (they were already mated, she thought it would just "put him in the mood") and her Chakat co-mates are quick to forgive her.
- In Tales of MU when it's revealed that Steff (a pre-op male-to-female transgender) was raped by Leda the standard response is "Is that even possible?" Though after much debate they come to recognize how traumatic it was.
- Game mod reviewer Al Chest Breach plays a consensual sex scene with a custom NPC follower as though she forced herself on him. As with the tone of all his reviews, the scene is clearly intended to be comedic.
- While more along the lines of "statutory rape is okay when it is female on male," South Park features a Deconstructive Parody of that particular Double Standard in which 2-year old Ike's 25-year old female teacher had regular sex with him. Although the adult men in series are saying "nice" regarding Ike's sexual conquest in spite of Kyle's outraged outcry, the show itself presents this as sick. The kicker is that when Kyle first told the police that Ike was with an older person, they immediately went to the conclusion that Ike must have been raped by an older guy. When Kyle corrected them, all they had to say was "nice" and were only willing to arrest her when they thought she was ugly.
- Surprisingly subverted in Family Guy, in which Lois rapes Peter. It's played out for comedic effect and other characters think Peter is totally pathetic for it, but he is notably disturbed by the whole thing.
- Then used in a later episode, where Lois more explicitly rapes Peter after he takes up abstinence, and is portrayed as being completely right in doing so. Earlier in the episode, they made fun of Christian groups who advocate abstinence, and Lois even goes "Abstinence is wrong! Just...wrong!"  Part of the satirization was the fallacious reasoning the group gave, including the one that convinced Peter, but it still uses this trope in a way that's rather tasteless
Peter: I'm abstinent, Lois. It's all in these pamphlets Meg brought home from school. Sex turns straight people gay and turns gays into Mexicans. Everyone goes down a notch.
- In another aversion of this trope, Meg tries to rape a guy and at the end of an episode, she was being dragged off while her family completely ignored her. What throws this into the Black Comedy Rape section is that Meg was trying to force herself onto a guy that had held her hostage and had threatened to kill her, to which her family ignored. She was being charged by the guy who had held her hostage.
- And yet again in "Peter-assment", where Peter is being sexually harassed by his female boss and Lois utterly refuses to give him any sympathy, insisting that a man can't be sexually harassed because they like sexual behavior. He also catches flak from his friends (Quagmire saying that he can't not sleep with his boss or else he's gay) and the patrons at the local bar. Later on the boss admits that she's harassing Peter because she hasn't had sex in a long time, and the audience is expected to see this as acceptable and the boss as sympathetic. It also did not help that Peter's boss threatened to kill herself because she fears being alone any longer and feels having sex will make her life have some meaning again.
- In The Simpsons episode, "The Strong Arms of the Ma". After bulking up, Marge rapes Homer (who is clearly scared and doesn't want to) violently enough that it hurts to walk the next morning. It's played for laughs, with Marge never apologizing or repenting, and getting away with it.
- Parodied in Metalocalypse when a group of female villains want to harvest lead-singer Nathan Explosion's "seed" in order to father a race of super-babies and kill him afterword. He is saved by Toki, but later laments in a way that invokes this trope
Nathan: Such a shame, she was so hot. But so f*RIFF*kin' crazy.
Toki: You just figures it out? All the hots ones is crazy!
Nathan: Yeah, I guess you're right.
Toki: And the ugly ones, too.
- On Men in Black the series's 5th episode a heavyset green female alien falls for Agent J and pins him to the ground to mate with him against his protests. K just chuckles and walks off, saying "Have a good time, kid."
- Possibly Averted as K normally leaves J in potentially dangerous situations, if he knows he can handle it.
- Futurama subverts this, with Death By Snu-Snu. The Zap and Fry know what is going to happen, and try to hide their glee because this is essentially a death sentence and they have no choice in the matter, but can't help but look forward to it.
- ↑ (Female rapists getting pregnant off their victims who in turn get in trouble for it as if they consented, for example.)
- ↑ Meg had gotten around the abstinence rule by having ear sex, in a parody of how some Christian youths consider anal and oral sex still "technically" maintaining their virginity.