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Men just don't understand

In a normal movie wedding you have the bride, the groom, the best man, and the maid of honor, along with various groomsmen and bridesmaids. But what if the groom's best friend is a girl? Or the bride is a tomboy who hangs out with all guys?

This trope describes the events and confusion when you have a role that traditionally (and only traditionally) is one sex, being filled by the other.

Examples of Best Woman include:

Film -- Live Action

  • Made Of Honor [the Patrick Dempsey movie] is about a male bridesmaid. It's mentioned in the film, too, that if he had gotten married first, the bride would have expected to be his best man.
  • Similarly, in My Best Friend's Wedding, the groom's father mentions to Julianne that he had suggested that groom make her his best man, but the bride-to-be wanted her for her maid of honor.
  • Happens in Seltzer and Friedberg's Date Movie, where Grant's best man, Andy, turns out to be his sexy ex-girlfriend as well. Julia finds this out the hard way.

Live Action TV

 Willow: I'm supposed to be best man. Shouldn't I be all ... Marlene Dietrich-y in a dashing tuxedo number?

Buffy: No.

Willow: Oh. [pouts]

Buffy: That would be totally unfair. We must share equally in the cosmic joke that is bridesmaids-dom.

  • On Night Court, Bull has Roz, his best friend, play this role at his wedding.
  • On General Hospital, Brenda served as both the best "person" and maid of honor at Ned and Lois' wedding, being the best friend to both of them.
  • On NCIS, though the wedding hasn't happened yet, the person Palmer has tapped to be the best man at his wedding was Abby.

Music Videos

  • In the video for Katy Perry's "Hot 'n' Cold", one of the bridesmaids is a grubby, stubble-faced man.

Web Comics

  • The tomboyish lesbian friend of the male lead of Marry Me is his best "man" in the epilogue.
  • In Girls with Slingshots, most of the groom's friends are women, so during the wedding, we have a train of "groomsmaids".

Web Original

Western Animation

Video Games

  • In The Sims Medieval, the "Wedding" quest has two roles for Hero Sims, the Groom or Bride and a Best Man/Maid of Honor. (You choose the Sim the groom/bride marries, but don't control them.) The two roles can be played by two Sims of the same sex, or of opposite sexes.
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